I shall not discuss whether is it better to formula feed or breastfeed baby. I think all of us know the answer.
However, I am still constantly bombarded with questions from my relatives as to
1) why I did not mix formula for my son when i was exclusively bfg Bryan or now the latest
2) why i give so little formula for my son…..ARRGGGHHHH geram-nya!
Last weekend, I was politely approached by one of my favourite aunts
Aunt: You know ah, expensive formula really makes a difference one lo. So & so’s baby hor, only 3 years old. Can ride bicycle liao and can count some more. So clever. And his mother did not breastfeed him also.
Me: *smile* and nod
Aunt: And my neighbour’s baby hor – only 9 months. Formula fed also. Wahh…look so grown-up and cute. His/ her mother also give expensive formula.
Me: *smile* and nod somemore
Aunt: So hor, you better give formula liao
Me: I got mixed liao ma (inside already start boiling fire)
Aunt: Ya, but must give more liao. Give good formula makes a lot of difference one
Me: No formula can match the benefit of breastmilk. If there is a formula out there that is better than breastmilk, don’t you think that i would have bought it for my son. (wah, now she say that my baby not very smart or grown up *fat* because i did not give enuf formula %$#^&%)
You think I eat full nothing to do, purposely trouble myself pumping and storing bm for my son meh.
Aunt: (sensing i was angry)…yaya. Oh I just want to say that get good formula for your baby hor, since you can afford it.
This aunt is actually one of my favourite aunt (one of my mom’s sisters). If it had come from someone else, I would have given her a sharp piece of my mind.
I am so sick of comments from people that formula is as good or even better than breastmilk.
I guess that it doesn’t help that Bryan is of a smaller built than most babies his age. But then why should we ever judge or compare babies, as they each grow at their own pace.
And as if she doesn’t know…no mothers out there likes to hear that their baby is less “smart” than so-so’s baby.
Somemore imply that all my breastfeeding effort is futile, as I breastfeed also, my baby cannot compare with so&so’s baby. Really geram &%&%&^$%#$##!!!